This year has been a roller coaster of emotional ups and downs to say the least. In 2008 my stepdad passed away whom I was very close to and then about a month after that I found out I was pregnant with my first child. I was scared and happy all at the same time. I have to say finding out I was pregnant did not take away the sadness of losing my stepdad but it did make things a little easier to deal with it seemed and it also gave my mom something to look forward to after having suffered such a loss. When in October on halloween to be exact we found out that my dad has to have emergency surgery to repair a ruptured in his colon. When they were in there they found out it was tumor and before the test were even back, the surgeon was pretty sure it was cancer and it had spread throughout his abdomen and they did not have much hope that he would live for very long. I did not lose faith but I knew it was not good either. He did really well after surgery but then took a turn for the worse. He was not awake or aware for alot of the time and spent alot of time on a ventilator, but at one point he did improve enough that he was off the vent and had a treach and for one night I got to talk to him where he was aware and knew what was going on.
There were times were he was better and then much worse and over the holidays last year were very touch and go but at one point he was able to come to rochester and be here at the nursing home, but that was very short lived, I spent alot of time over there talking to him and just being with him and one night I went back and he had taken a very bad turn for the worse and had to be transported to the hospital, he was only there a night or maybe two (it is very blurry to me) and the doctors were calling me telling me there was nothing more they could do and that they suggest I take him off all the meds and just let nature takes it course. Of course I was very pregnant at this point and this had to have been one of the most stressful times of my life trying to decide what to do and what would be best. With the help of my brother I decided not to put him back on the vent and the next day we ended the meds, I explained to daddy what was happening and that I was so sorry I could not do more for him and I stayed with him the whole time. That is honestly probably one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. Of course after that there was trying to plan his service and everything but that time is kinda of fussy, there was just so much going on I just went through and did what I needed to do. (During this whole time not only was I pregnant but was also still trying to get my degree). I took time of from my last class because things were just to stressful and I had to get ready for the baby to be born.
Then on April 16th 2009 my son and the light and love of my life entered the world and nothing has been the same since and I could not be happier about it. Things have been crazy, long nights of hardly no sleep, worrying if i was doing everything right and just the normal first time parent things. I am loving being a mommy and cannot imagine how I lived my life without him.
After he was born in July I finished my final class and in August I graduated with my Associate of Science in Criminal Justice. And at the end of August on the 29th the man of my dreams and the other love of my life asked me to marry him and I said Yes. I am so excited and although things have been totally messed up in planning this wedding, they are starting to turn around and things are going to work out, maybe not exactly how I wanted them to be but very good just the same. When it comes down to it, it is not about the ceremony or anything else it is just about us being married and loving each other.
Of course all these things have lead to another adventure I am on now. We have decided that because what my degree is in and it being so hard to find a job right now and that it is better for the baby if I am home that I will not work and I will be at home with the baby, there are other reasons as well, such as child care costing more then what I would be making. But as everyone knows the economy is not great so I have been trying to find a work at home job and that is what alot of this blog will be about. My adventures as a first time mom, being a wife and searching for a job that I can do at home and still be here with my son. The search is going alright and I want to help others with there dreams of working at home and maybe I will be able to do that. Of course I also want a place to share my life and opinions and maybe along the way help someone but sharing the things I have or am learning about life love and the pursuit of happiness.
I will end for now but please check back for new post about all kinds of new and fun things or just for a daily dose of th adventures in my world.
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